Kitchen Talk

Treena arguing with Dominic, who’s just said that being gay is perhaps not normal:

“Being normal is what men have created in order to not have to try harder.”


  1. Courtney

    July 20, 2008 at 2:55 am

    Ok……where’s the logic in that statement?

  2. DM Riley

    July 20, 2008 at 7:25 am

    Man would be in a standstill yet if not for the
    “beyond normals”

  3. Ken

    July 20, 2008 at 1:28 pm

    I will happily be “not normal” then. If men create what
    is normal – is that creationism – lol.

  4. Jeff

    July 20, 2008 at 5:29 pm

    ‘Sactly. Normal is as normal does. ‘Nuff said.

  5. Jason

    July 21, 2008 at 10:31 am

    Gah. Normal is what normally happens. Gay has always normally happened. QED.

  6. Valerie W.

    July 21, 2008 at 5:44 pm

    Normal is in the eye of the beholder.

  7. lori

    July 21, 2008 at 6:33 pm

    YES. “Hetero-normative” is the tailor-made suit men have
    created for themselves. That way they don’t have to think
    very hard. 🙂

  8. ST

    July 22, 2008 at 2:05 am

    This is one of the main reasons I come and read Alistair’s
    blog. I consider Alistair to be out in left field who
    challenges the norm. He tries to make us broaden are
    minds to accept things that are not considered norm,
    and in accepting these differences we can break these so
    called ‘standards’ or ‘unwritten rules’. Treat them as
    norms and we have the ability to get rid of these ‘standards’
    or ‘unwritten rule’ and allow us to accept man for what he

  9. Col

    July 22, 2008 at 1:09 pm

    “Normal is a heterosexual ambition that caters to the lowest
    common denominator “

    abnormal is fine for me.

  10. jessie_olson

    August 14, 2008 at 1:55 am

    Being gay is DEFINATELY “normal”. All you have to do is spend a day at a farm or zoo, or watch any animals free to express themselves as their nature wishes. It is only the pressures of those who have problems with their own nature that make social humans feel otherwise. Now, being gay is definately not “average”- but then when has being average EVER been the goal in life.

  11. Ruthie

    August 28, 2008 at 8:51 pm

    Yes. As Jason said, normal is what normally happens.
    Gay has always normally happened.
    So true I just had to say it again!

  12. Simon Smith

    November 11, 2008 at 5:15 pm

    …the only true normality is diversity.

  13. Geoffrey Anthony

    May 10, 2009 at 4:16 pm

    As the universe is still expanding normal will always represent the past.

  14. Kris

    August 18, 2010 at 11:51 pm

    I know this is an old post, but I just came across it, and it made me think.

    To some people, maybe normal and natural are synonymous, but if you turn the pebble over in your palm and look at it from another angle…

    To me, normal is a human concept wrapped up in probabilities, expectations, comfort zones – whereas natural is just simple indelible universal clockwork.
    A four leaf clover isn’t normal, but it is completely natural. A double yolker egg, a sunshower, an eclipse…

    Actually this reminds me of your lovely post about the ‘it’ in ‘it is raining’, which resonated with something I often think – language, as clever and beautiful as it can be, is a limited medium for describing and understanding and communicating what IS.

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